Someone who is dealing with heartbreak follows patterns similar to those of the stages of death
1.Shock and Denial- It is not uncommon for someone to deny the reality of the situation; this helps to provide emotional protection from feeling overwhelmed by it. The shock of loss allows a state of emptiness to move in, clouding most judgment.
2. Pain and Guilt-after the shock wears off it becomes replaced with suffering and somewhat unbearable pain. Regret for things you did wrong, or things that you weren’t able to do with this person adds to further tears and insecurities. Life feels chaotic during this time, and its best to openly discuss feelings and stray from bottling up your emotions
3. Anger and Bargaining- lashing out is a common form of attempting to release all unspoken emotions, it happens all the time. This is the stage where the “why why why?!” questioning comes in. The pleas for returned love run rapid, trying to bargain with fate or with the person who was just lost.
4. Depression, Reflection, and Loneliness- like everyone else in this situation, a period of sadness clouds and absorbs your entire sense of being, leaving feelings of emptiness. This feeling occurs when you finally realize and accept the magnitude of your loss. Isolation from people is exceedingly normal, and offers a time to reflect on the past.
5. Acceptance and an Upward Turn– The feelings of depression lift slightly and life becomes possible to survive without that person so deeply intertwined with each activity. The days are a little easier to shuffle through, and you see the possibility of continuation. The reality of the situation is fully accepted and, although happiness may not return for some time, the ability to move forward has occurred.
Now that you know what it is that you’re going through, keep posted for how to effectively deal with it….
